let’s talk about fandoms, shall we?
although i am sometimes ashamed to admit it, i am a part of the glee fandom. the glee fandom used to be a really nice place (most of the time) where you could find people who liked what you liked. you could find people who just wanted to talk about a show that was good and funny and heartwarming.
and it seems like ours is a fandom of underdogs. which totally makes sense once you know that glee is a show about underdogs. i’ve seen people go through all kinds of turmoil, and there are people who have probably seen me in my worst moments.
yet somehow, i love them, and they love me, and collectively, we watched a show together.
over the past, eh, year ish, ours has become a bitter fandom. there are a ton of different things that have contributed to this, and i could talk about it for a long time, but that’s not what this is about.
the nice thing about my little piece of the glee fandom is that there are people i’ve known for over two years and they’re kind of my support system. when i got really busy with junior year and ultimately became less involved, these people still cared about me and how i was doing and let me whine and whine and whine to them. i love them all to pieces. they know that.
these are people who understand me more than anyone else, and we laugh and cry and yell. but we all do it together. i mentioned in my last post that when i found glee, i was really lost and confused and i needed… structure almost. glee and its fandom gave me that. i found a group of people who love what i love, and we all got along swimmingly.
they live in missouri, north carolina, ohio, canada, new zealand, brazil, the uk, florida, washington, georgia, puerto rico, and one of the things about being friends with such an expansive, both metaphorically and literally, group of people is that when my friends are sad, i don’t get to bring them ice cream and watch cheesy movies with them and let them cry until they feel better.
i’ve known this for a very long time, and it’s always made me sad, but it hurts the most right now. when we’re all so upset/crushed/destroyed about the loss of our cory monteith, it hurts my heart to see these people that i love more than anything so so upset. i wish i could put all their pain upon myself because i would in less than a second.
i’m dealing with all this emotions as i try to come to terms with this major loss in my life (because as ridiculous as it sounds, it is, okay?), and they are too. we’re all trying to help each other in any way that we can just to put a little smile on someone’s face.
for example: one of my best “fandom friends” (although she is one of my best friends in any sense) is currently in the city of new york, visiting her sister. awhile ago, i told her about my favorite cookie place in the city, urging her SHE MUST GO EAT THESE BEAUTIFUL COOKIES, and yesterday we were texting, just trying to process everything (god knows we still are and will be for a long time), and she said that she wants to send me some of these beautiful cookies. i live in texas, and she is obviously in new york, and it will be very very expensive to send me them if she ultimately does. (i put those in italics to emphasis that she is the most beautiful person.)
the point i’m trying to make here is that really, i don’t care about the cookies. i mean, yeah, it would be really awesome if i could have some without being in new york, but it’s just that she wanted to. that’s so amazing to me, and she does not nor should she feel compelled to somehow overnight me cookies or whatever. i feel kind of silly typing out this anecdote because i’m almost certain that it will sound silly to anyone but she or i.
but, honestly, just that she wanted to… it means the world to me, and she is well aware how much i love her. (it is exponential, unmeasurable amounts, if you are curious.)
okay, i really got distracted by my wonderful friend and cookies and anecdotes. sorry about that. but anyway, as a member of this fandom, i’ve come across a lot of negativity and people who have no concept of reality whatsoever, but at a time when we’re all grieving, it’s… i don’t want to say nice, but it’s nice to see people who are going out of their way to make others feel better.
and that’s exactly what cory would’ve wanted.